As i've mentioned, i am in the middle of a big move right now. I started in Alaska where the military packed everything up and stored it away. In the 52 days before my husband has to sign in to duty, we've been staying at his Nana's house and living out of two boxes. It goes without saying, that i am ready to be moved. we are 36 days into it and i would give just about anything to start unpacking. I know it will be a task with as much crap as we have, but i LOVE making homes for EVERYTHING. With apx 2 weeks left, i've already started dreaming up new home decorating ideas :)
There are a lot of things that i learned from my ex husband, Steve. Self respect is one of them.
As much of the blame that i took, i am now realizing that it was NOT my fault. I was trying to be a good wife and as a result, he took advantage of me.
I was already very pro the fight against assault, but now that i know the pain and scars it can cause, my fight is becoming a much more verbal war. The more i speak out against it, the more i realize how many people have been victims of sexual assault and how many victims have suffered their pain alone.
There is NO excuse for sexual assault,
it does not matter what your relationship status.
I stayed in that relationship way too long,
i didn't put myself as the priority that i should have.
Sorry to get all mooshy gooshy on you, but have the awesome husband i have, i had to share:
Dave Willis gets it spot on in his article "4 things every wife desires from her husband". For the full article: Davewillis
1. Open, honest, consistent communication.
Communication does for a marriage what breathing does for your lungs. Be willing to turn off ESPN and put your iPhone down and engage in meaningful conversation. Never hide anything from her! Build a foundation of trust, honesty and open communication. Every one of your words and every action is either building more of her trust or eroding her trust in you. Remove distractions and make communication a high priority. For more ways to improve your communication check out our FREE video series on The 4 Pillars of a Strong Marriage. 2. Protection (Physical, emotional and financial protection).
You should be the one who wipes away your wife’s tears; not the one who causes them! Develop the discipline to work hard inside and outside the home to make your wife feel like the safest and most secure woman on earth. Have the courage to fight for your family and the faith to recognize that you need a power greater than your own. The Bible challenges us by saying…“Don’t be afraid of the enemy! Remember the Lord, who is great and glorious, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes!” (Nehemiah 4:14) 3. Your time. (Both “quality time” and “quantity time”)
Time is the “currency” of relationships, so invest as much time as you can into your marriage. You need to make money, but don’t use your career as an excuse to be absent. When you are home, be present, not distracted or glued to a screen. Work hard, but also remember that your family can do with less of almost anything if it means having more of you. 4. Continuous pursuit.
For most of us, we gave our wives the best we had in the very beginning, but just like a cable TV company that offers their best package, pricing and service at the beginning and then changes all the rules after the “promotional period” expires, many of us have stopped giving our wives the best of ourselves. We’ve allowed romance to fade. Our wives need and deserve our continued adoration, thoughtfulness and love. Give her your very best each an every day!
Our transaction to Kansas has brought us to my husband's hometown, Saybrook, IL.
Even before i moved to Alaska i was used to an entire street list of bars, pubs, and lounges. Alaska, as desolate as it is, also has a fairly long list of places to partake of adult beverages.
Saybrook, isn't like that. There is one pub here and it is called the Shady Nook. I thought Patrick was joking when he told me the name... it reminds me of something you would find straight out of Harry Potter. It's an adorable little pub and pizza place.
Even though i'm adjusting to the idea of a single bar in a town, i'm also having trouble adjusting to the prices (in a good way). It's been two years since i last saw decent liquor prices... In Alaska it is apx 24.00 for an 18 pack of BudLight, 21.99 for a 12 pack of Corona, and 12.99 is the average price of bottom shelf liquor. Now that i'm back south, i can pay less than a dollar a beer and for 12.99 i can buy middle shelf liquor.
It is so strange to have daily specials again... 1.00 night or 2.50 specials is unheard of in the great "country" of Alaska.
I am completely ok with this... it will especially help me fulfill the crafts i mentioned in the last post (wine cork DIY's) : )
With that said, i think it's time for some coffee and Bailey's.... The temperature has dropped in the past couple days and even down here, i am cold.